Where’s the Pink Cloud Now?

This will be the LONGEST post I have ever made! Since it’s been a while, I want to catch you up and to cover the time span I’ve been MIA. Thanks ahead for reading it. This is most definitely the most intimate writing I’ve ever done.img_0438

These excerpts are the last two pieces of my journal that you never saw. Things are great today and through all of the darkness over the last year, I have learned so much! I’ll tell you all about it in my next post. Really didn’t plan on sharing these but, I live a life of honesty and decided I needed to be true to myself.

 

The 1st part of this was written about 8 months ago but never published:

It’s been a while since I have felt like writing. I don’t know why, no motivation. A good deal has happened in the last month or so and I let some of it suck the spirit and happiness out of me. Most of the challenges have been financial and I lost sight of what’s important. Me, the person who gets on your nerves with all my “look on the bright side” chatter, was not feelin it.

My pet sitting business  slowed down since school started back. People had done their vacationing and seemed to be falling back into the normal life that Fall brings around. My resources and income were tapped out. Auto-drafted bills still hit my bank account as scheduled, even though there wasn’t enough money to cover them. A letter from the bank confirmed that my account was overdrawn and there was nothing I could do about it. With no income coming in, I called all of my creditors to let them know what was going on. Most were willing to work with me and for that, I was thankful.

I had been diligently sending out resumes and applying for any jobs I could but I was either turned down or never got word back about them. I had been praying, meditating and asking God to show me the way, as I have been taught to do but getting no answers. Frustrated and down, the pity party was starting to grow.

Begrudgingly, I made the hard decision to pull my 401k out and suffer the huge penalties and taxes. There was no other way out for me. Just because I had no money coming in, didn’t mean the bills stopped coming. I was 2 months in arrears on my car payment, a month late paying my health insurance (crucial) and my account was overdrawn. Embarrassing and humbling as it was, I even had to borrow money from my mom just to put gas in my car. I felt like a kid again, and not in a good way.

As I was moving through these financial woes and in complete self pity mode, my mom made the observation that I had not posted on the website lately. I told her that I had no words of hope or pearls of wisdom to write about any longer. I had nothing worthy of sharing. Momma said to me, “People read your blog because it’s real and honest. They expect you to be truthful, good or bad. Perhaps you should share some of your struggles, it may help someone else realize they aren’t alone in theirs”.

Still, I was not willing to sit down and write. Putting pen to paper makes things more real for me and life was real enough without taking a good hard look at the issues. My dear friend and trusted advisor suggested that God was letting me sit in this hardship for a reason, I needed to trust that “more would be revealed” in time, God’s time, not mine. This was definitely not what I wanted to hear.

I never finished the above post and revisited it the early part of the new year, January 2017. Again, I added the following to it, yet never published.

I haven’t even looked at my blog in a while. A couple of jobs did finally present themselves and I selected the one I knew would make me happy rather than a position that would have covered my monetary needs, yet felt like settling. I knew the new position wouldn’t pay the bills, but other than that minor detail, outstanding! I moved into my own place again, happy to be starting over.

Nevertheless, three months later, not happy, joyous or free. I have continued to slowly, inch by inch, day by day, sink deeper into the old familiar sludge. All the words shared by others who had traveled this course before me, those who ended up relapsing, are now making sense. I could never relate before, could not imagine why or what could get you down after discovering the joy in being sober. Today, I understand.

For over a year, I was cocooned in the passion of my recovery world. It was a bubble of comfort, consuming every aspect of my life. There were no distractions, no real life worries, only support, honesty and light. I believed I was ready to dive, head first into this thing we call life. Then, of course, being the extremist (aka. Addict) that I am, I bounded, both feet first, back into a full-time job, paying bills and dealing with “earthlings”. I guessed I was ready to take on my life again. After all, I received my bag of tools and had learned to use them over the last year. I got this, right? Not so much.

Due to the new job, I could no longer attend the noon meetings I had grown so accustomed to, the place where my chosen family was every day. That’s ok, I thought.

I was now working night shifts, and my Sponsor worked days, I could not speak to her as much… that’s ok, I thought.

“Normal people” are so trivial, they possessed no idea what’s really important. They were really getting on my last nerve! Me? Intolerant, just like them? No, it was ok, I thought.

I was still maintaining my all important prayer and meditation everyday like I’m supposed to. Yet slowly over time, I only took a moment for a quick prayer in the mornings. As long as I’m still praying, God’s got my back. It’s ok, I thought.

And so all of this continued, slowly dragging me down, little by little. These days, instead of waking up each day with gratitude and prayer, like I used to, my first waking thoughts are worries. I have been worrying about how to pay my bills, what am I supposed to be doing with my life. Am I supposed to be going back to school to obtain a degree in counseling? Am I supposed to be trying to acquire a nursing degree? Should I be traveling and sharing my experiences?

I have been feeling so lost and lacking in direction. I have prayed for guidance and have asked God why I was kept from death if there was no big plan for me. I’ve waited, and waited, then waited some more. Still, no answers.

Things are not ok anymore and I have to face this. I have stopped answering the phone when people call, choosing to stay alone in my house when not at work. Everyone is starting to get on my nerves again, I am not tolerant and peaceful anymore. I find that I don’t want to go to my meetings anymore. I don’t feel like getting together with anyone from my recovery circle. I am getting more comfort from being by myself. I am questioning my purpose, my very existence. I am dipping into the darkness again, finding solace in the familiar isolation that sustained me for 20 years. I am not unhappy, however, not happy. I am just here… in Stage 1.

There are 3 stages of relapse: For those who do not know, here is a cheat sheet.

1. Emotional relapse– I AM HERE
Anxiety
Intolerance
Anger
Defensiveness
Mood swings
Isolation
Not asking for help
Not going to meetings
Poor eating habits
Poor sleep habits
2. Mental relapse
3. Physical relapse

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3 thoughts on “Where’s the Pink Cloud Now?

  1. Sharon Hooper says:

    Love and prayers. I have some of the same feelings. I am not working and no insurance. I have had to ask help from my children. I am having high blood p

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  2. Kathy says:

    Thank you for your honesty and willingness to be vulnerable. Brene Brown says, “Vulnerability is not weakness….Vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage.” 💕💕💕💕. I imagine that there are lots of people that can relate to some or all of this….me included.

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